Steven and I like to think of ourselves as a bit untraditional. We're definitely not your PDA filled, googly eyes kind of couple that has to constantly be sitting on the other's laps. (Though if we were he'd be sitting on mine.) We've heard for years that some of our friends actually think we hate each other because when we're in public one is constantly ridiculing the other.
The first couple months of our relationship tested us not only as a very new couple, but as people. Was I going to be the kind of person that gave up because I was thrown into a horrible situation with absolutely no warning? Was he going to be the kind of person the succumbed to his disease and let the fact that he was sick dictate his happiness? Those questions made us look at each other and our relationship differently then most people do. I don't wish the crap that Steven and I have gone through on anyone, however I wouldn't change a minute of it if it means it would've changed the outcome. I may be a harder person then I was 4 years ago, but I'm also more myself today, in spite of it all, then I have ever been. We like to say that we hit the "in sickness and in health" part of our relationship a little sooner then most, and that commitment, so early on, is what makes our relationship so strong. Yeah, Steven may forget to open a door for me every once a while, but he makes up for being an idiot in public every morning when he kisses me goodbye.
I can only pray that the people that judge our relationship get the chance to have someone love them, and to love someone else, with such wreckless abandon. Its invigorating.
So, in the spirit of being untraditional, we've decided to have the wedding that we wanted from the beginning. Life is too short to do things for other people all the time, and as many of you may be hurt by this I hope you understand that we didn't make this decision to be vindictive. We're going to Vegas. We're having Elvis marry us. And we're going to have it be exactly what we wanted it to be all along: something we wouldn't forget. Because as great as caterers, and centerpieces, and bouquets are for some people, it's just not our style.
You're more then welcome to join us in Vegas.
With love,
Jana
